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Do you find it hard to make time or do things for yourself? Here are a few ways I spoil myself daily!
I’m not one of those moms that thinks being a selfish mom is a bad thing. Most moms I know rarely make time for themselves. They’re the most selfless people I know; putting everyone’s needs before their own. It’s innate, like some sort of magnetic force field that pulls us to take care of those around us first. I know, because that’s what I do almost every day of my life. I think it’s like a sixth sense that’s built into most moms.
But, I’ve learned throughout these few years of parenting, that taking care of myself is important too. I’m a selfish mom and I’m not ashamed of it. In my opinion, any little way I can make time or do something to spoil myself is a win for everyone.
Here are five ways I make time to be a selfish mom:
1. I drink hot coffee in the morning.
Coffee is my life, as clearly depicted across my social media. However, it’s hard to drink one cup of hot coffee in one sitting, especially in the morning. Something or someone always interrupts that insatiable hot cup of coffee. I like to try to wake early most mornings to get time for myself, but the days that I don’t, I make sure to squeeze it in whenever I can.
Since I’m lucky enough that the baby takes a 2 hour nap, I use that time to enjoy a cup of hot coffee. Sometimes, that means that my oldest plays by himself, while I catch some “me-time” to decompress. Other times, we’ll have quiet time together and I’ll get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Either way, I’ve learned not to feel guilty about independent play or taking a mom time-out. It’s best for my sanity, which in turn, means happier children.
2. I buy fresh flowers.
I love fresh flowers. I never used to, but these days, I’ve realized that it’s the little things that make a difference in my day to day moods. During the summer months, I cut a flower or two from our garden. These days, it’s a small indulgence that I let myself spurge on because it brightens my day in a big way. It encourages me to clean up different areas of the house and makes our gloomy, winter days a bit more cheerful.
And I wholeheartedly believe that spoiling yourself in these small ways make a big impact on your mood. I don’t buy them every day, but once or twice a week, I’ll grab a fresh bunch from the grocery store.
3. I let myself have screen time.
In this digital world, I’d be lying if I said that my phone isn’t one of my life lines. I try my best not to have it around when I’m with the kids. But, at the same time, I take breaks throughout the day. And I don’t let the mom guilt take over. I take 10-15 minutes to catch up on e-mail, peruse social media, etc. It’s a huge part of my life and I’m not ashamed of it. As long as I’m in control of how the time is spent, I’m okay with giving myself screen time! As a blogger, it’s important for me to stay on task and on my schedule. If I didn’t spread it out throughout the day, I’d get lost with the lack of time to do ALL THE THINGS.
4. I ask for help or time alone.
I’m SO grateful, thankful, blessed. Every day, I try to take time to be conscious of that in some way. BUT, I am only human. I am only one person. I’ve wholeheartedly accepted that I can’t be everywhere and do everything all at once. At least once a week, I ask for time to be alone.
Whether it’s downtime, while my husband does bath / bed time with both kids. Or running an errand while my kids are at school or my mom, I let myself get a break to be alone. And I’m so thankful that I have the support system that gives me this indulgent allowance. I know a lot of my mom friends aren’t able to get time for themselves very often because they’re solo-parenting a majority of the time. It might sound selfish, but I need time alone to decompress and refresh my mind on a regular basis.
5. I shower at night time.
It’s a good thing that I’m used to showering at night. Because now that I have kids, an indulgent, hot shower in the morning is nearly impossible! After the kids are down and the house is (somewhat) cleaned up for the day, this is my quiet time of relaxing. I love taking a hot shower before bed; it’s my way to wind down and something I’ve grown accustomed to doing as a part of my daily hair care routine.
Head & Shoulders Green Apple Shampoo is my go-to dandruff shampoo, especially during the harsh winters months in Michigan. It tackles itch and leaves my hair up to 100 percent flake-free! The instant, cooling relief to my scalp is so soothing! Head & Shoulders helps me to maintain my scalp health and helps keep my hair healthy, shiny and smooth during the dry winter months.
Head & Shoulders Green Apple Shampoo fights dandruff with the great scent of green apple, leaving my hair smelling great! Head & Shoulders Green Apple Shampoo is a pH balanced, gentle shampoo for daily use on all hair types, which is great for my regularly colored or chemically treated hair. It removes up to 94 percent of dandruff irritants!
I have oily hair and using Head and Shoulders during the winter months keeps my hair clean, healthy, and flake-free. Any products that help me feel confident and beautiful, while getting the job done, is a winner in book. Being able to spoil yourself with little indulgences like these should be a daily part of your life. You can find the Head & Shoulders Green Apple Shampoo and many more products on Amazon! Double win: having your hair products shipped to your home is a huge time-saver.
Are you a selfish mom? How do you find ways to spoil yourself?
Five Ways to Spoil Yourself Every Day
Love that shirt!! My son is almost 5 and I still drink coffee in travel mugs at my house so that I can make sure it’s still HOT when I finally get to drink it. =)
Yes to ALL of the above! I finally got into a routine that allows me a cup of hot coffee in the morning, while I read some blogs, and it’s made all the difference in the world. I need to get better about getting out of the house ALONE, though. We lost our sitter a couple months ago, so I’ve been in that stuck place recently. That’s changing very soon, though!!!
Buying fresh flowers is something I need to start doing for myself. Especially with the winter months here upon us. Makes the room seem bright and cheerful.
Lovely post, i should remind myself of thing what are good for me. Thanks for sharing xoxo
Hot coffee in the American is a must for me!
Love that shirt! I like to buy flowers as a special little treat. It always feels a little indulgent to me but the impact it has on my spirit is well worth it.
You are such a beautiful mama, inside and out! I agree with all of your self-care practices, it’s so important!
You hair looks amazing BTW! Today I’m getting my nails done! Is been well over a year ????
Treat YoSelf! These are such great tips for all the ladies out there!
I have the same tendencies! THe only thing i don’t do is “let” myself have screen time. Sometimes I feel like I have no choice with this blogging world
I couldn’t agree more with nos. 4 and 5! I’m not yet a mom, but I do spoil myself by shopping. Retail therapy makes me happy every now and then. 🙂
I indulge in a hot coffee in the morning as well, it helps me get ready for my day at work. I tend doing that after sending my daughter off to school.
I also buy fresh flowers at least once a week and I treat myself to a massage every once in awhile.
My phone is my lifeline as well . with life being so busy it helps me stay connected blog-wise.
Great post and we love that head and shoulders shampoo!
I need to buy fresh flowers, it puts that last special touch on home decor and makes the house look finished! Great post and suggestions, keep up the great work!
I’m not a mom yet but asking for help or time alone is huge!
I love the screen time bit! I always feel guilty but at the same time, during her nap is not enough to keep up with the blog, emails etc! I try to sneak time – but this made me feel better to read! xo!
Fantastic list. We all can find ways to spoil ourselves every dey. For me it’s coffee and quiet time for myself in the morning.
I always have coffee! Must have for sure. I may need to try to shower at night…I would get more done for sure in the morning. Great tip.
Fresh flowers are definitely my favorite treat to myself!
Meghan, Beyond Basic
So simple, yet so necessary! I love the flower idea and am also a night time shower taker…otherwise, wherever you are…you’d smell me right now!
Every new mom or woman for that matter should read this article. I am a big fan of a nightly bath, when the house is quiet and I can just gather my thoughts and de-stress myself.
It is so hard to remember to take time for myself, but it is so important! Thanks for posting this!
I need to ask for time to myself more as my husband’s happy to help but not very good at offering. You don’t get unless you ask!!
lovely post! 1 & 5 are my favorites <3
I love having a relaxing bubble bath in the evenings, and I love the idea of buying fresh flowers to brighten up the home! Great list!
Coffee and nightime showers. Amen and amen.
Yes- showering at night when the kids are in bed is the best because who has time in the morning to shower? lol
I often think that I’m a selfish mom, but yet I know I’m in a much better mood for my kids when I take care of myself a little. I love showering at night – makes life so much easier.
I do most of this — except for buying fresh flowers! I love that so much! I am going to start. 🙂
Love this list! I hate showering at night, because I use it to wake myself up. But, I am never opposed to buying myself flowers.
I love all of these things, especially showering at night! That is such a great way to end the day 🙂
I really want to get into buying fresh flowers for myself every week. I think it would look so pretty at my desk since I work from home and my office is in the basement. It can get a bit depressing down there.
I should definitely start buying fresh flower!! I loved this list of things!
Such great ways to treat ourselves! I shower at night too! The best! xx, Morgan
Asking for help is so hard for me sometimes lol I’m one of those women who like to be able to do it all. It drives my husband insane. Thankfully he knows when I’m needing help so most times I don’t have to ask. So it works lol
I take a nap when I can. I have an early riser and a night owl, so it’s a necessity.
I LOVE fresh flowers! I try to treat myself to a bouquet every week or two when I go to the grocery store. It doesn’t cost much extra, but it makes me happy every time I See them in bloom
To spoil yourself daily is a different way of thinking. Thanks for the encouragement. I think we sometimes feel selfish when we do things for ourselves. Love each point, it’s true a shower at night really helps especially is you have little ones. Fab insight!
I agree with all of these, self care is so important!
We have so much in common! Coffee- check. Fresh flowers- check. Hot showers with great smelling shampoo- check. 🙂
I don’t have kids, but I still need quiet alone time. I make sure to get some daily! I also love my daily coffee!
Showering everyday is such a luxury for a lot of moms. I try to make sure I get one no matter how late at night it is to unwind. love your list!
I love the green apple shampoo! It smells so good.
Hot drinks in general feels very soothing. I agree. Its a great way to spoil yourself.
With hair looking that amazing… I am for sure taking your advice! I struggle with my locks constantly. XOXO babe face.
#3 and #4 for sure! Especially showering haha
I used to shower at night – now I end up falling asleep at my computer so it doesn’t happen but I need to get back to it. Great post!
A hot coffee in the AM is a must-have of mine! I agree with showering and chilling on my phone as well. I don’t think I am selfish, but that my daughter deserve a happy and healthy mommy!
Well hello beautiful! Saw your updated Facebook photo the other day and forgot to comment how fab you look 🙂 Love these – I buy myself flowers all the time haha and YES to showers at night after the kids are asleep. I swear I stay in there for 30+ minutes 🙂
Thanks for this! Fresh flowers would be a big spoil, I should do this more! As for the coffee, I try to wake up early just so I can get a HOT cup– where you just cup your hands around the mug till it’s gone! That’s the best.
Great post! I think its so important to fill your own cup up before you can fill others. I think your list is great although…I’m way too tired for showers at night, lol! I used to buy fresh flowers (and I will again someday) but our budget just doesn’t allow for the extra expense right now so I have had to let it go.
My selfish time involves painting and the occasional girls night out.
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