Today’s post is sponsored by ZonePerfect #ZonePerfectLittleWins, #LittleWins™. As always, the content and opinions expressed here are my own.
I can hardly believe it, but I’ve known my husband for 10 years. And this Sunday, we’ll be celebrating our 6th wedding anniversary (in Vegas!!). Like most couples in this stage of life, we’ve been through (and survived!!) most relationship challenges. But, the constant and ongoing challenge we face is caring for our relationship intentionally.
We both work full time and take care of our parents. Throw in maintaining a house and raising two rambunctious little boys (and two dogs!)? To say that our days are chaotic would be an understatement.
It’s in this season of our happy chaos that I’ve seen my best and worst self in my role as a wife. I’ve become a pro at making sure that the “to-do”s of the day are usually done. But, some days, it’s at the expense of not even having one meaningful conversation with my husband. In the busy-ness of our day to day, it’s so easy to push our relationship down the list of things to take care of.
This summer we started to do make some changes. Little ways that make a big impact on our relationship in a good way. We didn’t have a big heart to heart about it. They were just random things that ended up becoming a part of our routine organically. I think that’s why it’s been easier to intentionally keep up these #LittleWins™ as part of our daily routine in maintaining our relationship and showing each other love.
1.) Giving Each Other Me-Time
My husband gives me time on the weekends to sleep in or just to be alone. Being a work at home mom is definitely full of many rewards, but time away from kids is hard to come by. That free hour or two on the weekend is SO good for me to replenish my patience tank.
I’m the wanderlust in our relationship, so I get away for a few “momcation” weekends throughout the year too! In the same vein, I try to give my husband time alone too. A few times a year, I like to take the kids on trips to visit friends and family, while he gets a “dadcation” weekend at home.
Now that it’s (fantasy) football season, I make sure to give him days to relax, so that he can enjoy watching a game in peace and quiet.
2.) Making Time for “Our” Show
Usually, House of Cards is our jam! But, over the summer, we (finally!) got hooked on Game of Thrones. It’s our show that we binge watch together whenever we can squeeze it in. We took a break to watch the Olympics for a while, but we try our hardest to put away our laptops and make time to watch an episode or two together a few times a week.
3.) Talking about the Future
Over the summer, we talked on and off about making a 5 year plan. A few weeks ago, we sat down for a few minutes and each wrote down our 5 year plan goals. Almost everything on our individual lists of wants for our careers, home, and family life were the same. After all this time together, we often joke about how we’ve become one person. We laughed about how true that statement really is for us. It was so fun to talk about our future, our wishes and dreams. We are going to try to do this every few months! It’s such a great way to connect in a different way.
4.) Taking a Break Together
Whether it’s during nap time or while the kids are playing together, we sit down at the kitchen table to have a cup of coffee or snack together. Even if it’s just writing (or reviewing) our to-do list of the day. Those small breaks make the difference in how the rest of the day will go.
Little Ways to Show Each Other Love