Have you been on a Kid Free Vacation? We have and last month, we went on our third trip!
This post was originally written on June 7, 2016.
Tomorrow, D and I are heading to New Orleans for our first kid free vacation since C was born last summer. It’s a trip he earned (working hard and long hours) through his company. We went last year to Miami, when C was in utero. And before that, we went on a five day trip to the Dominican Republic when A was 18 months old. We traveled a lot before kids and we knew we always wanted to make it a priority in our lives.
We’re lucky to have a strong support system that we even have the luxury of going on kid free vacations. To say that I am thrilled would be an understatement. But, in the midst of it all there a range of emotions I’ve felt leading up to travel day. And I wholeheartedly believe that you have or will feel the same if you ever have the opportunity to go on a kid free vacation. It isn’t my first time away and still, I’m all sorts of emotions about all of it.
1.) Excitement for Basic Needs to be Met
Oh sweet, sweet sleep. Yes, hands down, the thing we are looking forward to most, is sleeping without being woken up, or waking up knowing that we can just go right back to sleep. Sleeping in past 8am? What is this notion?! And oh my gosh, eating an entire meal in one sitting? Eating food while it’s hot and fresh? Going to the bathroom without someone barging in? Yes, I am all kinds of excited to be doing all of these life necessities, in peace and quiet, while all alone.
2.) Nervous about Spending Time Just Us
Sure, we have a couple of hours to ourselves after our kids go down for the night. But, most nights, D is passed out in the threenager’s bed or working and I’m hurriedly trying to get a load of laundry done or cleaning up the kitchen. Or on non-productive days, both of us are numbing our brains with Netflix on repeat. We don’t often go out on dates, so to have four days alone? Just us? I’m anxiously nervous and giddy for some major quality time with my husband. Butterflies? Oh yes, I feel like a 16 year old teenage girl going out on a first date!
3.) Guilt for Leaving the Kids
A the threenager LOVES swimming and traveling and riding on airpwanes. I definitely have guilt over not taking them with us (not an option!). I also have guilt for leaving TWO kids with my parents. But, I know they’re more than capable and love spending time with them. So I am trying my best to quiet the mom guilt voice talking to me incessantly as I’m packing my suitcase.
4.) Joy for Travel
I am a complete and total wanderlust. With or without kids, I love seeing different places and experiencing different cultures and foods. I love that I’ve never been to New Orleans before and I’ve heard so many exciting things about the city. Everyone tells me it’s a great place for a mini vacation and I can’t wait to enjoy it all! The sights, the sounds, the eats, and the people, I’m so happy to be able to experience it all.
5.) Relaxed and Ready to Enjoy it All
And the culmination of the roller coaster of emotions that is mama guilt. Above all else, I am already relaxed and know that time is so fleeting. I’m ready to enjoy it all and know that coming home to the boys will be that much sweeter after a long weekend to unwind and decompress. I’m looking forward to coming home refreshed and energized for daily parenting.